5 basic pillars that have a stable relationship

When it comes to having a relationship, not everything should be love, sexual relations and eternal affection. As its name suggests, a couple is a two-person thing. It is something that must be forged by both parties if you want it to be as durable as possible. Otherwise, it is bound to fail forever.

And you? Do you have a relationship but are not completely comfortable in it? Well, through this article we are going to tell you the five basic pillars that should show a relationship of couple.

Love

It may seem silly, but surely there are still couples in which love shines by their absence. These have united for mere economic convenience or power as it was only a few decades ago.

However, this type of relationship is advocated to failure. There will come a time when neither party is happy with the other person. You will find that the person you spend so much time with does not fill your heart. Therefore, surely before or after this situation will only bring frustration, stress and no happiness.

Respect

There are thousands of couples out there who can process eternal love, but the respect that exists between them is null. The line between love and hate is very thin. And for that reason, each time each of the parties feels jealousy, inattention or detachment on the part of their partner, they begin to be disrespectful with insults, expletives and even physical and / or emotional abuse.

This is something you should never allow. Respect must always be eternal and mutual. But, we will enter a war of egos and vanities that will not take us anywhere.

Trust

Undoubtedly another of the most basic pillars of a relationship. It is very normal that from the beginning small jealousy and mistrust may arise since we do not know 100% of that person. However, with the passage of time and once the relationship is established, it is very important that there is mutual trust on both sides.

Without it, we will always be alert to the actions and decisions of the other person. And the truth is that this is not healthy for our inner peace. We simply can not always be distrustful of our partner because this will only bring us a stress and brutal frustration. If for any reason we have reasons to distrust him or her. We will have no choice but to sever the relationship.

Commitment

Every couple relationship needs a minimum commitment. We are not going to get into the degree that is needed. But if it is necessary that both parties "commit" some stability in the long term. It is useless to swear eternal love to a person, yes a few days our feelings disappear.

A relationship is a lasting relationship. It is like a plant that has just taken root and that we must water every day if we want it to become a beautiful flower. And the other part must do the same. In short, a relationship must provide a minimum of emotional stability if we want it to last as long as possible.

Sincerity

This goes a bit in relation to the previous point. Without sincerity, a relationship of couple is bound to failure sooner or later. For this reason, it is very important that before perjuring eternal love, certain points are made clear that for one person may seem very obvious but not for the other.

Fidelity, sincerity, trust, commitment ... These are the most important values ​​that should govern a relationship in a relationship. However, there may still be many people who still do not see it that way. That is why it is very important to leave all these points clear from the beginning with the objective that the pillars of our relationship be strengthened. This article is published for informational purposes only. It can not and should not replace the consultation with a Psychologist. We advise you to consult your trusted Psychologist.

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