How is an emotionally dependent person: 5 clear traits
There are people who definitely do not know how to be alone. They base their happiness on being always accompanied by others that reaffirm their values as a person in order to feel better about themselves. Needless to say, we are social beings by nature and therefore it is very normal that we like to spend our free time with our closest friends and family.
However, you also have to dedicate time to yourself. To be alone and to know each other better. To inquire into the deepest aspects of our personality with the aim of loving and accepting ourselves as we are. Nobody is going to know us better than ourselves. Hence, it is very important at times to enjoy our moments of "solitude" in order to achieve happiness on our own.
Although as we have said, throughout our lives we will find emotionally very dependent people that we will describe through their five main features.
They lack proper initiative to
Anyone with a high emotional dependence will lack self-initiative. He believes that his actions and decisions are meaningless and therefore he always expects others to act for him.
In this way, they reaffirm in their theory that they are not valid to face any adversity that comes before life. Hence, they prefer that others take a priority in their decisions, no matter how small they may be.
They do not have self-esteem
The happiness of emotionally dependent people lies solely with others. They do not have the tools or tools to achieve it on their own.
This is the reason why they always rely too much on others and on the opinion they pour on themselves. They also flee systematically from loneliness without realizing that thanks to these many times we can get to know each other better and therefore achieve happiness in a much fuller way.
They never know how to be alone
We return to emphasize this point. And the truth is that it is one that best defines emotionally dependent people.
Lacking initiative and self-esteem, they always have the urgent need to meet with friends or family so that they are the ones who make plans to go out, help them make decisions or even flatter and treat them to feel better. Also, by not being able to enjoy time for themselves, they lack their own hobbies and hobbies.
They idealize love
Love and emotional dependence are two terms that are intimately linked. People of this type usually idealize the feelings they have towards a person they have just met. They think they are a perfect being who knows how to make them feel really good at any time.
However, the issue comes when the relationship is broken by any circumstance. And is that having completely idealized that person, they think that they will not find anyone better, plunging into a situation of extreme sadness and disappointment.
Abuse the goodwill of others
Emotionally dependent people have no problems in abusing the good intentions and will of all the people around them.
They tend to be very persistent when it comes to achieving their goals at the expense of others. And is that lacking initiative, it is very difficult to achieve any goal that they propose for themselves.
This is the reason why they always walk "behind others" asking for help shielding themselves for it in a false victimhood that they know will work really well when it comes to deter anyone who is around. This article is published for informational purposes only. It can not and should not replace the consultation with a Psychologist. We advise you to consult your trusted Psychologist.
