Not everything you lose is a loss

Throughout our lives we are going to meet thousands of people. Many of them will be like family and will be by our side forever. Others will simply be mere friends and by the circumstances of life we ​​will not see them again. We will also meet many couples and although many of them perjuring "eternal love" soon change their feelings.

The truth is that you should not blame them for this as it is something that can happen to anyone. For this reason, we must take these situations with some perspective. It is worth at the beginning that they can be painful, but if one thing I have learned after some couple relationships is that nobody dies for lack of love and sooner or later it gets better and gets ahead.

For all these circumstances, we thought it was most interesting to tell you why it is sometimes more "healthy" to let someone who wants to leave our life go, even though we sometimes do "the impossible" to stay .

We do not own anyone

This usually happens a lot in relationships. One of the parties stops having the same feelings as us and therefore makes the decision to "leave us". At that moment the world falls on us since we do not imagine our life without that beloved being. He / She was our support and the person that made us feel truly special.

However, as I have told you, we do not need absolutely nobody to be completely happy and when someone dear decides to leave our life we ​​try to do the impossible so that it stays with us. We even get angry with her because we do not fully understand her decision, especially if we felt she was comfortable with us.

In one way or another, there is no choice but to respect his opinion. The only thing this person is looking for is to be happy on their own. And it is something that we must abide although we dislike it.

Start thinking about you

Irremediably every time a friend or partner leaves our side for any circumstance, we live moments of a great internal grief. We martyred ourselves thinking if it was our fault and we try to do everything for that person to back down.

If it has really been your decision and we have not interfered with it at all. What good is martyring? We have to realize that if a person loves you or really loves you, they would not leave your side so easily. If he does, this does not make him a better or worse person. Take it as both parties are going to take different paths by simple whim of fate.

Once you begin to understand it, you can begin to be happy again. In the case of love disappointments, it is very important to rediscover oneself. And for that, it's a good idea to take up old hobbies, and go out more with friends and acquaintances who for whatever reason had a little left. Surely in the long run you are feeling better and will go out of that well that you thought it was impossible to leave

More people will come to your life

The good thing about living in a world inhabited by more than six billion people is that it is very difficult to get bored or stop meeting new people. If someone decides to leave and close the door, be sure that sooner or later someone else will cross your path. We will not know if it will be better or worse. But it will bring you quite different things that the other did not have.

And this is just one of the great "advantages" of letting go to anyone who decides to take a different path to ours. With each person you can develop more aspects of your personality, something that will help you to know yourself much more and therefore become a much fuller person. Once you get it, you only have to share that "happiness" with all those people who freely decide to stay by your side. This article is published for informational purposes only. It can not and should not replace the consultation with a Psychologist. We advise you to consult your trusted Psychologist.

"Not everything you lose is a loss" Jay Shetty (March 2023)