Relationship at a distance: tips to make it work
Currently, more and more couples are forced to live their love hundreds and even thousands of miles away, often due to work reasons. Contrary to what many people believe, a love from a distance is possible and even the relationship can be much stronger than that of couples who are lucky enough to be together.
The figures are very encouraging; A study conducted by the University of Sydney stated that 82% of distance relationships are successful and even 43% end up in marriage.
Many times, maintaining a relationship at a distance allows you to assess certain aspects of the relationship that would otherwise not be valued. In addition, the fact of being forced to live their love separately, allows to reinforce confidence, increase communication as a couple and increase ingenuity when it comes to surprising the other person.
If you are living a love at a distance and you want the relationship to work, here are some tips that are sure to help you.
How to make a relationship work at a distance?
Establish a schedule to communicate
That your partner and you are in different cities, does not imply that you have to be 24 hours a day pending the phone. While it is true that nowadays applications such as WhatsApp allow rapid communication, it is advisable that you also bet to talk to him or her by phone; Sometimes, listening to the tone with which they say things helps to avoid many misunderstandings.
Independence
It is important that you do not base your life fully on your partner. Find activities that you like and with which you feel comfortable and enjoy your free time to the fullest.
Talk about feelings
When a couple sees each other on a daily basis, in most cases they avoid talking about feelings because simply by looking into each other's eyes they know how they feel.
However, in a distance relationship, it is best to share with your partner how you feel; If one day you are sad for any reason, it is best to tell them about it. It is a fantastic way to know how your partner reacts in any type of situation.
Sexual appearance
The sex It is one of the most important aspects in a relationship. Of course, if you are separated by many kilometers, things get complicated. Luckily, new technologies are on your side. Why not a virtual sex session?
If you have never tried this with your partner, perhaps starting with a video call is too rough. You can propose, in the first place, a telephone sex session in which you simply hear your voices. In this way, if you both like and feel comfortable, you can go a step further and try virtual sex.
Fidelity
Of course, that you and your partner live miles away does not mean that your relationship does not continue to be a relationship. Even in the distance, fidelity is still a fundamental aspect that you must take care of to the fullest.
In the same way, you should have full confidence in your partner; If you live continuously thinking that he or she will be unfaithful at some point, you will only get frustration and sadness to take over.
Future
Distance does not mean you do not have a future in common. Even in the distance, it is advisable that you talk about your future together; what are your plans, when do you want to see them again ... Communication is vital!
For a relationship to really work, it is important that it be fully consolidated. If not, it sure does not take too long to become an absolute failure.
Surely accepting that you must live your relationship at a distance and with the advice you have read, you can get well that your partner is many miles away. Moreover, if both manage to manage it correctly, when you are together again your relationship is much more consolidated, without fissures. Many times the distance is the best test to really realize if you want to be together or not; You will learn to value each other. This article is published for informational purposes only. It can not and should not replace the consultation with a Psychologist. We advise you to consult your trusted Psychologist.
