When fear cancels us as people
We are fearful by nature. Many times we panic to changes, to the unknown, to the new stages that life can bring us. The worst of all is that many times we do not realize that all these movements can be one of the many keys to be happy.
However, sometimes fear cancels us as people. And the truth is that I do not blame you. It is completely understandable that there are changes or setbacks in our day to day that are not to our liking. But in our hands is to know how to manage this fear so that it does not "come back" to bother us in the future. And through the following article I will tell you how to get it.
The first step is to accept it
Many of the failures that we commit throughout our lives can simply come from unfounded fears. Everyone has them and that is why I tell you that you should not worry about this aspect. The first thing you have to do is accept them. Recognize that they are part of your being since you are a person.
Remember that a good way to start solving a problem is to accept that it is there. Well the same happens with our fears and frustrations. The more real they are, the easier it will be to get rid of them.
And how can we do all this? Surely many will ask. Well, a good idea is to take pencil and paper to write them all. In this way, you can take them out of your mind, from the depths of your being where they hide to control you. If you leave a record of your fears in a notebook, you will have outsourced them and therefore it will be easier to tackle them in the future.
Delve into the reasons for your fear
To admit that you are afraid will suppose that you are going to stop having it? Nothing is further from reality. The next step after acceptance is to delve into the reasons why that fear forms of you. Has it arisen from negative experiences of the past? Or has it been something or someone who has instilled it in you? Is this fear something temporary?
It is very important to ask this type of questions. In this way, fear itself will become smaller. It will stop being so important. In fact, from this moment you can face him more quickly and effectively.
Most successful people today had to face all kinds of fears and setbacks to get to what they are today. Bill Gates, Antonio Banderas, Walt Disney ... The list is long and can continue to increase with people like you if you really intend it.
And finally, you just have to add value
There is no magic wand that will make you stop being afraid of something. This is a long and heavy process that can be extended for many months. Here there is no choice but to add a little value to the matter. Most of the fears we have come unfounded by future events that have not yet occurred. The present is what matters most right now, the one that allows you to own your own actions.
It makes little sense to focus our attention on things that have not happened. For this reason it is very important to have some kind of motivation that catapults you towards future successes. Do not create a preconceived image of yourself in an environment of failure. This is not you, that is not your reality and therefore you should not worry about it.
And if in the end it turns out that you "fail" in your endeavor, there will always be time to correct mistakes. There will always be time to reconnect with yourself. And you will always have time not to make the same mistake again. And it will be there when you realize that you are a strong person. And that nothing and no one can stop you when it comes to achieving your dreams. This article is published for informational purposes only. It can not and should not replace the consultation with a Psychologist. We advise you to consult your trusted Psychologist.